Love yourself first!

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You’ve probably heard a million times how important self love really is. And I think it’s more than just a new cheesy trend. The phrase ”Love yourself first” is so much more than just an Instagram caption, a quote, written in a nice font. It’s the most important step you have to take on your path to a fulfilling life and it’s both easy and hard to achieve. But when you do, there’s no more settling for something or someone. There’s a lot of working on yourself, finding out what makes you happy and what doesn’t, what makes you productive and what makes you feel lazy. You start reaching for you dreams, regardless of other’s expectations and you are surround yourself by people, who will encourage you, help you, believe in you. There’s no more thinking about how you should look. Instead of that, you focus on how you want to look – inside and outside, and you don’t care about the ideals in magazines and social media. You see yourself as a whole.

The path to self love is the one that never ends. You might have some wrong turns, some steps backs, some stops. Just keep going :).

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A positive body image in the age of perfection

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I’ve decided to share my story a few weeks ago and let me be honest, it was scary. But at the same time, it was like a huge weight was lifted off me and I could leave that chapter of my life behind. I’ve been thinking a lot about a positive image since then and why do we find it so hard to love our bodies the way they are. I can look on my experience from a distance now and I can see how much I wanted to be perfect, but for me, the standard was so high, I could never reach that perfection. I also included some pole photos in this post – no retouch, no hiding of ”flaws”. Pole dancing is a sport that sometimes squeezes your body, shows your rolls and cellulite, but it’s my happy place and I feel the most comfortable there. When I was younger, I saw that complaining about your body is an often subject in girls conversations. Whether it’s just general complaining about that few extra pounds (the ones that, believe me, are not extra, that’s just the way we see it), talking about diets, about running, working out… And nowadays it’s no different. We keep seeing photos of some would call it perfect bodies (let’s admit it, we know what Photoshop can do) and we compare ourselves to them in our everyday lives. But you know what? In our everyday, there is no perfect, soft lighting or many layers of powder to keep our skin looking perfect. There are no posed moments. It’s just us and our (sometimes busy) lives. We sometimes do our make up in bad lighting. Sometimes there’s a light in a room that gives us bags under our eyes. We are bloated on some parts of the month, or maybe we just don’t feel like wearing a tight dress when going to dinner because of our ”food baby”.

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Pole dancing and body positivity

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I’ve decided to write this post when I’ve realized that for the past year, I could step on the scale and not worry about the number for the first time in my life. Now I think it’s just a number, not something that defines you. But I needed some time to realize that, so I think it’s best to start this story at the beginning.

I was one of those extremely skinny girls when I was a teenager. Partly because of my bone structure, partly because I wasn’t eating enough for all the activities I was involved in that time. There practically wasn’t a day without a sports activity and I should have adjusted my calorie intake – but I didn’t. I actually loved the fact how skinny I was. Growing up in the age of super skinny models, reading magazines filled with diet advice and photos of ”ideal bodies”, my body seemed kind of normal to me, I liked that I looked gentle and fragile, and I had no idea why people close to me were worried. My body image was completely disortorted and when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see what I see in the old photos now.

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