Under a lot of stress?

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Yesterday, I  left two of my three student jobs, because everything was slowly becoming a bit too much to handle and I decided to keep the one that is the most connected with my studies and where I could work enough to get me through the month. One of the main reasons is that I had zero time to work on my thesis, and since I have no desire to spend three years writing it, I had to kick myself in the ass and get to work. For the last few months, I felt like I have to all of the things at once and when I wanted to take some time for myself, I always felt a bit guilty when I saw all of the work waiting for me. So guess what happened last week? I got sick and definitely didn’t get better with working everyday. For the first time in ages, I had zero appetite and I could sleep all the time. My body wanted a time to rest and now I see I have to spend some time at home, in bed, to get better. Our bodies will tell us when they need a break, we just have to learn how to listen to them. That’s something I’ll have to work on:)

I used to be even worse :D. If I wasn’t working all the time, I felt like a lazy ass and constant stress was something completely normal to me. I think I didn’t see my family for almost a month once! I don’t know how I managed to get through those years but I’ve learned a lot of stuff, and I’m honestly still learning. The first thing I needed was a job that doesn’t make you stress out without any reason, and for the last two years, I’ve been working in this kind of jobs. There is always a bit of stressful moments everywhere, but with reasonable responsibilities and good relationships everything is a lot easier.

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College has always been a source of stress for me, too. But why? What will happen if I fail one exam? What will happen if I present my thesis and finish studies in September and not in May? That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t do your best, but focus on studying, writing, listening and not about worrying :). Right now, I’m focusing on working on my thesis every working day for two or three hours, and it’s got me a lot further than stressing about the fact I don’t have time, except on the weekends, when I wanted to be with family and friends. And I’ve made the most progress since September!

And one more thing I wanted to focus on was doing the things I love to do. Since I’m getting closer and closer to my first ”real” job, I’ve been thinking a lot what exactly would I want to do for life. The first reaction was of course: O no! What would I do! (+stress, stress and stress). I’ve seen so much people who are stressed out all the time because of work, who work long hours and spend their days working and sleeping…I don’t want a job like that.  Now, I’m focusing on getting better at things I like and I can imagine doing my whole life! So I’ve been spending a lot of time being creative lately and so far I love it! I’ll definitely tell you more about my plans in the future 🙂

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I also want some more time for exercise. Sometimes I skipped a dance class because of work, but I always felt a bit guilty after that, since I love pole dancing! Plus I have no time for extra stretching and weight lifting, and that is something I would really like to work on. I’m one of those people who get annoying if they don’t have time for exercise, so I guess this decision is something great for me and the people around me :). Believe me, exercise is one of the best things to get rid of stress. But not every exercise – you should focus on sports you like, set up some simple goals, and all in all, focus on doing something that gives you energy.

And there’s one more thing that will help you get rid of stress. The happy moments with your loved ones, the days you decide to forget about work, waiting for you, the days when you enjoy in the moment, when you really live ”here and now”. So instead of stressing out, isolating ourselves from our friends, hiding behind piles of work, let’s share the positive energy, take time for ourselves and our loved ones and yes, also tell them when there is something troubling us. An advice and an outside opinion can change the way we look at the problem.

Je t’embrasse

Pia

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Si ves čas pod stresom?

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Včeraj sem pustila dve od treh študentskih služb, ker je bilo vse skupaj s študijem počasi že preveč zame. Obdržala sem tisto, ki je najbolj povezana s študijem, in seveda, da še vedno zaslužim dovolj, da pridem čez mesec. Glavni razlog za to odločitev pa je bila moja magistrska naloga, saj  je res ne želim pisati tri leta, a se ji nisem mogla niti malo posvetiti. Zdaj se bom pa lažje brcnila v rit in se spravila na delo. Zadnjih nekaj mesecev se mi je zdelo, da moram vse narediti hkrati, ko pa sem si vzela čas zase, sem se počutila krivo zaradi dela, ki me je še čakalo. In kaj se je zgodilo prejšnji teden? Zbolela sem in zagotovo ni pomagalo, da sem se seveda spravila v službo vsak dan. Prvič po ne vem koliko letih sem ostala brez apetita in lahko bi samo spala. Moje telo je želelo nekaj časa za počitek in očitno moram ostati nekaj dni doma, v udobni postelji, da se pozdravim. Naše telo nam pove, ko rabi pavzo, ponavadi ga samo ne poslušamo :). Morala bom še delati na tem.

Včasih pa sem bila še hujša. Če nisem bila ves čas v pogonu, sem se počutila kot največja lenoba, da sploh ne omenjam nenehnega stresa. Na eni točki nisem svoje družine obiskala kakšen mesec! Ne vem, kako sem se spravila čez ta leta, ampak sem se veliko naučila. In se še učim. Prva stvar, ki sem jo potrebovala, je bila služba, v kateri nisi pod stresom brez razloga, in zadnji dve leti delam samo v takšnih službah. Sicer je vedno kje malo bolj stresen dan, a če o obveznosti razumljive in odnosi v službi dobri, je vse lažje.

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Faks in šola sta lahko tudi velik izvor stresa. Ampak zakaj? A se bo svet podrl, če ne narediš tistega izpita v prvo? Kaj pa če ne predstaviš diplomske maja ampak šele septembra? Seveda to ne pomeni, da se ne potrudi, a namesto na stres, se rajši skoncentriraj na učenje, pisanje, poslušanje. Trenutno delam na magistrski skoraj vsak delovni dan po par ur, in me je pripeljalo dlje kot pa sekiranje glede pomanjkanja časa, pa še vikend mi ostane za družino in prijatelje. Da ne omenjam da sem v zadnjem tednu pomoje naredila največ od Septembra naprej :D.

Osredotočiti pa sem se želela tudi na stvari, ki jih rada počnem. Bolj in bolj kot se bližam iskanju ”prave službe”, bolj razmišljam o tem, kaj točno bi rada počela. Prva reakcija je bila seveda: F**, kaj bom naredila! (+stres, stres, stres). Videla sem že toliko ljudi, ki so ves čas pod stresom zaradi službe, ki delajo neplačane nadure in dneve preživijo tako da delajo in spijo…in nočem takšne službe. Zdaj se raje koncentriram na to, da postanem boljša v stvareh, ki so mi všeč in bi jih lahko delala celo življenje. Zadnje čase poskušam biti čim bolj ustvarjalna in počutim se super, bom pa povedala kaj več o tem še kasneje :).

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Želim pa si tudi več časa za telovadbo. Včasih spustim kakšen trening zaradi službe in se vedno počutim malo krivo, pač, res rada plešem :). Rabila bi pa tudi nekaj dodatnega časa za fitnes in raztegovanje, saj bi res rada delala tudi na tem. Sem ena izmed tistih ljudi, ki postanejo sitni, če nimajo časa za telovadbo, tako da je ta odločitev super tudi za ljudi okoli mene. Verjemi mi, telovadba je super način, da se znebiš stresa – a ne vsaka. Zato se ukvarjaj s športom, ki te veseli, si postavi nekaj preprostih ciljev in se osredotoči na stvari, ki ti dajo energijo.

Pa še ena stvar ti bo pomagala pri odganjanju stresa. Veseli trenutki z ljudmi, ki jih imaš rada, dnevi, ko pozabiš na delo, ki te čaka, ko uživaš v trenutku, živiš tukaj in zdaj. Namesto da si pod konstantnim stresom, se izoliraš od prijateljev, skrivaš za delom, rajši delo pozitivno energijo, si vzemi čas zase, za tvoje najljubše in jim tudi povej, ko te kaj daje. Zunanje mnenje in nasvet ti lahko čisto spremenita pogled na vso zadevo. A si za brezstresno 2018?:)

9 thoughts on “Under a lot of stress?

  1. Joj kakšen super zapis in super razmišljanje. Tako boš šla v pravo smer. Raje manj denarja in odgovornosti, pa da počneš nekaj, kar te izpopolnjuje in omogoča, da maš čas zase in stvari/ljudi, ki ti nekaj pomenijo. You go girl! 💙

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